For the longest time I couldnt understand attraction between sexes. I thought of physical attraction as the main component. However, I have now realized if its to last thats not it. Lasting attraction requires real respect for the other person and compassion. You will never feel loved if you expect the other person to earn it.
Its not that hard to show respect. However, you have to be willing to learn about the other person. Just listen, dont interrupt and always avoid debate. Debate is the opposite of listening.
I may not know the magic ingredient to romantic love but I do know that you have to clear the way to it. When you do, you are likely to gain true friendship, the best kind of love.